Tuesday, April 07, 2009

Ineligible Bachelors?

"Ineligible Bachelors: Indian Men Living in U.S. Strike Out
Brides and Parents Back Home Get Picky as Economy Makes America Look Risky"
http://online.wsj.com/article/SB123896998996190775.html


It made front page of The Wall Street Journal yesterday. Interesting...WSJ is done with AIG bonuses, bank bailout, G20 and could only turn to the singleness of Indian men apparently prolonged due to a weak economy. Few lines from this articles stick out...

Rahul Tamrakar, 32, a full-time consultant for International Business Machines Corp. in Chicago, has been looking for a bride back home in India. But he says prospective in-laws were worried that "consultant" was a euphemism for "unemployed." One parent asked to see his tax returns. He refused, and the talks fell through. Now, "I'm trying to meet up [with] girls who are in the U.S. already," he says.


The parent asking for the tax returns is what we could call a Ninja move! If your prospective in-law asks for your tax returns it is a sign. A sign that you should run as far as you can from that dude. If you end up being his son-in-law he is going to only stop at demanding that you direct deposit your paycheck to a common account and pick up "allowance" from him. Having said that, when my 1 yr old is ready to get married I will find a way to run a full credit report on the guy! You bet!

Ms. Seth says that if she were to move to the U.S. or to another developed country, she might not get a job quickly and would have to be dependent on her husband for a while. While she's open to the idea of giving up her independence, she worries that given the state of the U.S. economy, a groom based in America might not be earning enough to support her. For instance, Ms. Seth says she likes nice clothes and would like to have a flat-screen TV. "Is he really prepared to provide the kind of lifestyle that I have right now?" She expects a husband to earn more than she does.

Okie dokie...what is it really? Make enough to support her or provide the kind of lifestyle "I have right now"? Ms.Seth broke it down for us. Kohl's clearance sale of "Made in Bangladesh" nice clothes and Visio flat screen TV, refurbished. I mean if you are shallow at least hit real high. Nice clothes and flat screen? Please!

Mr. Dave of Klassic Match charges a minimum fee of $100, versus $50 for candidates living in India. He charges more for specific requirements. For instance, he says some overseas Indians want a bride who is smart, fluent in English, and "simultaneously, docile in the house." He says such women are now harder to find, so he bumps up his fees for some searches.

Simultaneously, docile in the house? Is this guy really married? What is this? The Stepford wives finder?

Oh well...

I am so thankful for having met my wife when I was a not particularly motivated college student...I could only improve from that point. Or so she felt.

To the tigers and tigresses out there in the jungle looking for each other - there is more to it than tax returns, nice clothes and flat screen TVs but ya, that is a good start. :)

1 comment:

kautilya said...

lol..

actually your comment - "Having said that, when my 1 yr old is ready to get married I will find a way to run a full credit report on the guy! You bet!"
- makes me wonder if there's a business op here?

how about beating all the eharmonies and bharatmatrimonials at their own game? how about starting a credit check, drug abuse check, transcripts check website for prospective grooms?

And while we are at it, also check for "docility" of bride...